You planned every detail of your wedding from the flowers on the tables, wedding decor to the icing on your cake, but when the white dress comes off and the party is over, you might realize you forgot to prepare for something important. You forgot about your wedding night!
The wedding night is one of the most anticipated parts of your big day. This is the first time you and your partner are first alone together as husband and wife, and there’s a lot of pressure to have the perfect night together. It’s hard not to feel the weight of the pressure to have a wedding night that rivals your favourite romance novels.
It’s supposed to be magic, right? The reality is the wedding night isn’t always what you’d think it should be. That doesn’t mean it can’t be special.
It’s Okay to Just Sleep
This might be surprising, but many newly married couples actually don’t “consummate” their marriage on their wedding night. Most newlyweds choose to just sleep on the big night. You’ve spent months and months preparing for your wedding, and you’ve had a busy and exhausting day.
Maybe you’re leaving early for your honeymoon and want to sleep while you can, maybe you just need to regain your energies. No matter the reason, it’s completely okay for you and your partner to choose to sleep on your wedding night.
You have the rest of your lives to spend together, you can afford to take time to recover from your wedding.
Communicate About Your Wedding Night
Communicate with your partner about your concerns. Set a plan for what you will do for the wedding night. Maybe after your wedding, the two of you will return to your home or your honeymoon suite for a quiet bath followed by a nice massage.
You may prioritize tying up loose strings before your honeymoon. You might need to finish your registry, in which case Bed Bath & Beyond wedding registry is a great option.
Perhaps you need to make last-minute travel arrangements for your honeymoon. Whatever the reason, make sure you talk to each other about it before as it is quite easy to forget to discuss this important part of the night with everything else happening.
Be Confident on Your Night
In the chaos of your wedding prep, you probably thought of everything to make you look your best on your wedding day:
- But did you think about how you want to look on your wedding night?
- Will you wear your favourite lingerie?
- Will you freshen up your makeup after the wedding reception before retiring to your room?
Being confident takes time to plan, but it’s worth going the extra mile for your special night together.
Don’t spare any detail from Pink Gellac gel nails to your favourite hairstyle that makes you feel great. After all, it’s your time to shine and an excuse to get all dolled up.
Don’t Forget to Enjoy it
Whether you plan to have a “traditional” wedding night with your partner or you’ll be taking it at your own pace, make sure you enjoy your time spent as husband and wife.
This is a new chapter for you together. There’s a lot to explore together, and there is much room for growth in your relationship.
The weight of having a perfect night can be a lot to handle as a new bride. Realize that like your wedding day, nothing is perfect. You don’t need a perfect night to have a special, memorable night with your partner. Leave your expectations at the door and just appreciate this personal time with your significant other.
Be present in the moment. Before you know it, it’ll be over, and you want to make the most of your time.
The Gist of it
It’s easy to forget about the wedding night when preparing for your wedding day. This is one of the most exciting moments of your life, don’t forget to enjoy it. Ignore the pressure of having the perfect wedding night.
Whatever you and your partner choose to do for your wedding night is special in its own way, and there is no right or wrong way to enjoy your first night together as husband and wife.
How did you spend your wedding night?
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Carrie at Curly Crafty Mom says
I think this is a great post and not one that many brides put on the top of their wedding planning list! I think a talk to discuss what you both expect a little before the wedding wouldn’t hurt!!
The Wardrobe Stylist says
Oh yeah! I know for me ages when I got married, it never happened as we were so caught up in the moment that we didn’t know what would have been the best thing to do once the party was over.